Since you were a child you've been sold the idea that falling-in-love, whirlwind romance and intense attraction is the hallmark of the perfect relationship. It makes good movie plots but, when 50% of marriages end in divorce, something is obviously wrong with this recipe. What's missing is something rather old-fashioned, something difficult to show in a movie: compatibility.
Compatibility is the likelihood that one thing will work well with another without little. In love it means finding someone who feels right, fits with you easily, matching perspectives and avoiding disagreements. It's a true partnership. From that foundation you can enjoy the excitement of romance - compatibility is the cake, romance is the icing!
"Over 20 years as a therapist, I've seen key traits that make a couple incompatible and cause endless conflict. It's pretty obvious that a divorce was inevitable from the start and sad to see people fighting over things that will never change."
There's a lot of 'fluffy' notions about compatibility out there but, in psychology, there are solid concepts that explain why some people connect and others don't.
"So many times I've explained psychological concepts to people in therapy and they sit back amazed at how well it describes their partner. Next, they wonder why they've never been taught that before...it would have saved them a lot of time and disappointment!"
Compatibility: 8 Pillars of Lasting Love is based on years of experience in therapy with real clients plus the history of research into human psychology. It contains 8 compatibility factors that make or break lasting love. Now you can evaluate your relationships through the eyes of a relationship therapist and avoid those painful mistakes that waste your time and break your heart.
It's the perfect companion to online dating - each chapter contains questions you can use to assess your suitors and see who's a potential life-long partner. if you're considering divorce, use the book to check whether you already have the perfect partner and just need to work on things or, whether you're flogging a dead horse in your marriage.